05/03/2023
My heart wants to shatter for teenage girls today.
I can’t imagine feeling that kind of pressure starting so young. And it’s not like the pressure is coming from one place. It’s coming from everywhere: school, celebrities, social media, friendships, relationships, EVERYWHERE.
I am 36 and even though I’m fairly confident in myself, I know how I feel when I see a picture of friends out without me, and it’s not great. When you see a group together and they flash across your Instagram stories with the caption “all the girls are out tonight.”
What?
They are?
Weird, and ouch, cause I thought I was one of the girls. Guess not. Let me go back to my home with a snuggle blanket and a bag of Doritos.
I can’t imagine feeling that when you’re a teenager. Can’t. Even. Imagine.
I can’t imagine comparing yourself to fashion bloggers, or celebrities and their perfect bodies. I can’t imagine feeling like you constantly need a filter. I can’t imagine being bombarded with these messages of “Do this. Be that. Fix this. Fill that. Diet this. Workout that. Contour this. Suck in that. Tape in this. But that. Be enough. No not like that. You’re doing it wrong.”
I can’t imagine feeling like the only way to be worthy is to be Instagram-worthy, the only way to be loved is to have likes, and the only want to have friends is to have followers.
Y’all.
We’ve got to help these girls.
That’s what the sisterhood is about: walking together and clearing the path, so the ones behind us go farther than we ever imagined. We need to stage an intervention for the teenage girls today. It’s too much you guys, it just is. Let’s tell them. Let’s tell them it’s not okay to be under so much pressure. Let’s tell them that they’re so much more valuable than a like or a love or a follow. So. Much. More. Valuable.
Let’s tell them and let’s show them. Let’s show them by holding our own heads high.
Let’s stop obsessing about our looks, berating our every flaw, and believing that our worth is tangled up in the opinions of others, the size of our paycheck, and the number on a scale.
Let me say that again, because it’s just so dang important:
Let’s tell them and let’s show them.
They need us. Let’s grab their hands and pull them up. Let’s find freedom, and let’s find it together.
Love,
Amy & Jess
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