03/31/2026
💜 They are so use to putting us down, talking down to us, telling us they don’t like our friends, making us do endless chores before we are allowed to go out. It’s just their norm. It’s only when we recognise their behaviour and call them out on it, do they kick off even more. This is my house, I pay the bills, if you don’t like my rules then pack your bags, oh hold on, nothing belongs to you because I bought them, but I will allow you to go out in what you’ve got on. Give me your keys and don’t come back. I was 12!
Clearly she didn’t liked being challenged by a 12 year old. Not that I challenged her, I just asked her why my siblings can’t help me with the 6 jobs I’ve just been given? It was a simple question and I got a back handed slap for asking!
In my adulthood I’ve given them chance after chance. They still won’t hear me, or recognise the damage they’ve caused to all 4 of their kids.
I’ve put the boundaries in and stated what’s acceptable and what’s not, and they are fine for a while and then they start slipping back to old toxic ways, so I would remind them of my boundaries and then they’d kick off and start victim blaming and gaslighting me, you’ve always been difficult, you’ve always caused trouble, you’ve always been the odd one out etc. No, I’m the whistleblower, I’m the one that takes no more sh*t. I’m not controlling them I’m making it safe to be around them.
What do you think?
Can you relate?
WE don’t just wake up one day and say right that’s that no contact. It’s a buildup of a lot of things and it takes endless amounts of energy to have a relationship with them. *Us me and my sister and anyone who can relate to this too. 💜